Chris just got dumped by Christina. Or something like that. His buddy is trying to take his mind off his woes.
“It’s Saturday, you don’t have anything to do, you don’t have a girlfriend, so get hammered.”
“Chris, have self-control. Get shit-assed.”
“Chris, I won’t get you any fries until you finish that up.”
“It’s summertime! It’s warm out, you’re wearing a white shirt, let’s hit Hops.”
“Get stumblin’ drunk, Chris. Get druuuuuunk.”
“They’re all waiting for you. Janine, Laura, Natalie, they all want to see you drunk. I promised them I’d get you drunk.”
“Heather’s a beautiful bartender. If she says drink, you drink.”
“What shot do you want? I’ll get you a shot of Johnny Walker Red.”
To Heather: “He has an evil girlfriend. An evil imaginary girlfriend.”
“Dude, Chris, get down to it. Get into it. Get it done. I bought you a cigar, I bought you some drinks, let’s do it. There’s many beautiful girls waiting for us.”
“I’ve got my Dao. I passed out, I didn’t even touch her.”
“Dude, I’ll throw you over my shoulder and carry you out if you need it.”
(Holding a basket of fries away from Chris) “Every drink, you get a fry.”
“You’re an amazing guy. Just fucking start drinking.”
“You used to be great fun. Then you started dating these horrible women and they sucked you dry.”
“Hey, dude, you’re the one that determines when we get to start eating the fries. I’ll give you twenty seconds to finish that drink.”
“If you don’t drink I’ll give the fries to the guys at the bar.” He turns to a couple of guys at the bar. “Hey, dude, you want a fry?”
They have joined the guys at the bar. Buddy: “do you remember the days when you used to be a man, and you used to have fun, and you used to go fishing? These guys heard your story. They feel your pain. They want to buy you a shot.”
All I can say is, I want a friend like that in my corner. It makes breaking up worthwhile. The buddy is now pimping his friend to the cute women at the bar. They’re interested.
Chris, through all of this: “I have to stay in control, man. I have to keep my head.”
My message to Chris: Take it from a guy almost twice your age: keeping your head only goes so far, buddy. I was married, and I was the one that kept my head. I was the one who stayed calm and in control. Through the swings, through the ups and downs, I was constant, conservative, and predictable. I never raised my voice and never held a grudge. Solutions to problems were negotiated rationally. For that very reason the marriage was doomed to die, not with a bang, but with a whimper. Chris, you have to open up sometimes. You have to howl at the moon and make a stand. You have to do stupid things. You have to beg for forgiveness and you have to forgive. You have to let the passion inside show on the outside.
I think back on some of the times I’ve gotten butt-royal wasted (man, what a good phrase) with some of you out there that read this. We’ve all had our moments in the sun and in the gutter. Sometimes you have to let go. If that means your buddy carries you out of the bar over his shoulder, well, all right then. If you don’t let go, if you don’t trust your friends to catch you when you fall, you’ll hurt your buddy’s feelings, and, worse, you’ll forget your own.
